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如 何 與 青 少 年 兒 女 互
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(影音/寬頻)55:29 |
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Interact with
Teenager
speaker: Julia
Chiang |
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您是訪客第 
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教養孩童，使他走當行的道，就是到老他也不偏離。(箴22:6)Train
up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he will not
depart from it. (Proverbs 22:6) |
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生理的成長 |
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少女 |
少男 |
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體型改變，驚惶失措Dramatic
physical changes, scary, feeling panicky |
生理秘密，不欲人知Physical
development is a big secret, avoid letting any one else know. |
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月經來潮，緊張不安Menstruation
starts, causing anxieties |
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春痘來訪，不肯離去Pimples
appear and would not quick |
夢遺手淫，寢食難安Wet-dreams,
masturbations, restless |
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胖貓睡蟲，無精打采Like
a fat cat that loves to nap, always listless |
惱人痘痘，遍尋偏方Pimples
are bothersome, seeking formula to heal |
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心理的成長 |
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早春期11~14 |
中春期14~17 |
晚春期18~21 |
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喜歡挑戰權威Prone
to challenge authority |
不愛大人管束Resist
controls from adults |
與父母關係改善Improve
in relationship with parents |
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看重朋友意見Prefer
friends’ suggestions over parents’ |
常感心靈空虛Strong
feelings of emptiness |
能接受父母意見Willing
to accept parents’ suggestions |
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經常作白日夢Day
dream often |
內外經常交戰Constant
battles between inner and outer self |
需要人指引前途Seeking
guidance from people |
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內心矛盾重重Constant
inner conflicts. |
要適應新的環境Desiring
to adjust to new environment |
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盼父母聽我心聲Yearning
for parental understanding |
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心靈的成長Spiritual
Development
(參考資料：《吾家兒女初長時》，黃文雄醫師)
(adapted from Dr. Huang's book “My Children Are Growing Up” |
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 8歲以前的孩童，只知有一位主宰，是無所不知，不是無所不能、無所不在的主；對
神的觀念由父母的觀念延伸而來。
Before age
eight, a child only knows there is an all present, all knowing,
and all powerful God; the concept of God is based on the concept
of parents. |
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9~10歲
認識到復活節與耶穌有關，但與神無關。10歲以後，了解
神是無所不在、無所不知、無所不能的全能神。
From age
nine to ten, a child starts realizing the connection between
Easter and Jesus, but not with God. After ten, starts realizing
that God is everywhere, all knowing and all powerful. |
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11~13歲是信仰上的轉捩點，有
神人分離的觀念，
神的眼目無時無刻注意我們的一生。Ages
eleven to thirteen is a big turning point in their spiritual
journey. Begins to realize that God and man are separate
entities. Realizes that God is watchful for our lives all the
time. |
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13歲以後，具體的全能神觀念，祂是萬物的主宰。After
thirteen, has substantial concept of an almighty God, the
Creator of the universe. |
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14歲以後，認為《聖經》是上帝所默示的，具有無比的重要性，對信仰有強烈的求知慾。After
fourteen, realizes that the Bible is a revelation from God and
is critically important to men. Has strong curiosity toward
faith. |
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14至18歲的青少年是接受信仰的最高鋒時期。
Fourteen to
eighteen is the prime time for youth to
embrace faith. |
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成長是喜悅的 |
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 與青少年和平相處妙方
Secret
formula for Harmonious Relationship with Teens |
父母除去超人心態Parents
should shed the super human mentality
避免「雙不贏」話題Avoid
topics that would make both sides lose
用孩子的尺度對待孩子Treat
the child with his/her yardstick
不攻擊他/她的朋友Avoid
attacking his/her friends
接納他/她負面的情緒Accept
his/her negative emotions
「我的感覺」面對粗野無理Express
how you feel without attacking his/her behaviors |
不當面斥責No
blunt scolding
全家一起吃晚餐Eat
dinners together
作他/她的朋友Be
his/her friend
避免觸電般的反應Avoid
instantaneous blow up
尊重孩子的隱私權Respect
a child’s privacy
尊重個別的差異Respect
individual differences |
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給青少年父母的建議
Suggestions to Parents of teens |
給青少年父母的建議
Suggestions to Parents of teens |
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追求「均衡」的人生Seek“balanced”life |
追求「均衡」的人生Seek“balanced”life |
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點點滴滴累積正面的經驗Accumulate
positive experiences bit by bit |
點點滴滴累積正面的經驗Accumulate
positive experiences bit by bit |
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父母的愛是永不改變的愛Parental
love is never changing love |
父母的愛是永不改變的愛Parental
love is never changing love. |
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